Four killing behaviors for human relationship (인간 관계를 저해하는 네가지 방식)

1. Browbeating (윽박 지르기)

2. Treating too well (너무 잘 해주기)

3. Treating too cold (무관심하기) 

4. Being Poor (가련하게 굴기)

source: 

1. Jame Redfield (1993), The Celestine Prophecy. "The Fourth Insight: The struggle for power." 

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Celestine_Prophecy

• The Fourth Insight... The Struggle For Power

To gain energy, we tend to manipulate or force others to give us attention and thus energy. When we successfully dominate others in this way, we feel more powerful, but they are left weakened and often fight back. Competition for scarce human energy is the cause of all conflict between people.

• The Sixth Insight... Clearing the Past

The more we stay connected, the more we are acutely aware of those times when we lose connection, usually when we are under stress. In these times, we can see our own particular way of stealing energy from others. Once our manipulations are brought to personal awareness, our connection becomes more constant and we can discover our own evolutionary path in life, and our spiritual mission, which is the personal way we can contribute to the World.

Here the four main "control dramas"—the Interrogator, the Intimidator, the Aloof and the Poor Me—are discussed. Each person unconsciously prefers one of these four to suck energy out of others (as described in the Fourth Insight). A way of getting these under control is disclosed.

2. 임경택, 숨쉬는 이야기.